Belonging: Does it really matter?

Do I even need to belong?  Not to live like a hermit but is there really a need to belong in a group?

No. In some form or to some extent, it is all a fallacy.  (Naturally, it may be hardwired into people's brain in order to somehow survive better.  Ultimately, the answer is no.)
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I've been wondering about a certain situation that almost all teens who are maturing come to consider:
Does it matter if you belong or not?

I used to think that if I didn't belong to a group, I'd end up as a scapegoat to someone else's problem.  It's been going on for a while, but I've been flip-flopping between being social hermit-like and socially desperate.  My social hermit-like mindset imposed a propensity on me to isolate myself from others and not even bother to interact with others.  My socially desperate mindset made me think that everyone that I met and interacted with (and to be honest, "interacted" would be describing barely tangible exchanges between other people) thought that I was just another one of their problems and just a total waste of their time.

So, I've come to the conclusion that it really doesn't matter if you belong to a group or not.  I don't know if the need to belong in a group is hardwired into every teen's head.  However, if this propensity is really hardwired into teens' heads, then that part of my brain has been defective ever since I was in second grade.  My "defect" has left me very dissatisfied with all aspects of my social life ever since Day 1 of high school.  Despite all my attempts at trying to "fit in," I only continue to "fall out" with almost every guy and girl at my age.  I will admit that I've met a few people I've "clicked" with, but those fleeting moments of happiness were washed away by the apathy and horrifying emptiness that envelops me when I'm with average teens.  So overall, trying to belong in groups for me has granted me no happiness and will probably never will.

For those who have "clicked" with, I can only say that I find happiness while being with others that are "my type" and (not necessarily having the same interests as me but) - in plain words - that I enjoy being with.  Ultimately, I've only found pain and regret when I hung out with people that I knew weren't my type but heedlessly tried to fit into a group I had never liked in the first place.

So, about finding people I enjoy being with... I realize I really haven't been doing that.  Maybe I should do that?  I better get started at finding those people...